Shared motherhood: A path to parenthood for lesbian couples

Shared motherhood, also known as reciprocal IVF, is a powerful and inclusive way for lesbian couples to build a family—together. It allows both partners to take an active role in creating and nurturing their child, from conception to birth.

At Care Fertility, we’ve helped many couples take this path—and we’re here to support you every step of the way.

What is shared motherhood?

Shared motherhood is a form of IVF where both partners in a same-sex female couple are directly involved in the pregnancy:

• One partner provides the eggs

• The other carries the pregnancy

The eggs are fertilised with donor sperm, and the embryo is transferred to the uterus of the partner who will carry the baby.

This approach gives both partners a personal and physical connection to the pregnancy—creating a deeply shared experience of parenthood.

Learn more about reciprocal IVF

Why choose shared motherhood?

A biological and emotional bond

Shared motherhood means both of you are part of the process—one as the biological mother, the other as the birth mother. This can bring a unique sense of unity to your parenting journey.

A stronger connection

Going through IVF together, each playing a different but vital role, can deepen your emotional bond and bring you closer as a couple.

Inclusive and affirming

At Care Fertility, we believe family comes in all forms. Shared motherhood is just one of the many ways we celebrate and support same-sex couples on their journey to parenthood.

How the process works at Care Fertility

Step 1: Fertility tests and consultation

You’ll start with an initial consultation at one of our clinics. This includes a review of your medical history, fertility test results for both partners, and a full explanation of the shared motherhood process.

Step 2: Egg collection and fertilisation

The partner providing the eggs will take fertility medication to stimulate the ovaries. Once the eggs are ready, they’re collected and fertilised with donor sperm in our lab.

We’ll talk you through selecting a sperm donor—whether from our own bank or a known donor. 

Step 3: Embryo transfer

The best embryo is selected and transferred to the uterus of the partner carrying the pregnancy. It’s a simple, straightforward procedure.

Already frozen your eggs? Shared motherhood is still possible

If one partner has previously frozen their eggs, shared motherhood can still go ahead:

• We thaw your frozen eggs using our advanced vitrification technique

• Fertilise them with donor sperm in the lab

• Transfer the resulting embryo to your partner, just like in a fresh cycle

Using frozen eggs doesn’t compromise success—and often offers more flexibility and control.

Read about egg freezing

You’ll never walk this path alone

We know that every couple’s story is different. That’s why we offer a full team of support around you—fertility specialists, nurses, counsellors, and more—to make sure you feel safe, confident, and cared for throughout.

Emotional support

Our counselling services are available to every patient. Whether you’re nervous about the process, working through past experiences, or just need someone to talk to, we’re here to listen.

Real stories from real families

Lydia and Jenna’s journey
After traditional IVF failed with Jenna’s eggs, and Lydia was unable to carry a child due to a medical condition. Lydia provided the eggs, and Jenna carried their beautiful baby girls.  

Read their story

Ready to begin your shared motherhood journey?

Whether you're exploring options or ready to take the first step, we’re here for you. Our experienced team will guide you through every stage—from planning to pregnancy—with compassion and clarity.

Get in touch today. Let's make family possible—together.