Why I Chose to Become a Sperm Donor: Michael’s Story

Sperm donation is something many people don’t think about until they need it. But what makes someone decide to donate? For Michael, it started with curiosity and became something truly rewarding. His journey shows what donation involves—both practically and emotionally. 

For me, it started with a mix of personal reflections. I will be completely frank and honest by saying that the first thoughts that led me down this path were purely selfish. At first, it was a moment of realisation about life and the future and wondering ‘what it all meant’. 

I’m a single gay guy, and as I approached middle age, I started to realise I might never have kids or a family of my own. That thought stuck with me—not in a sad way, just as something to mull over. I started looking into sperm donation out of curiosity and discovered that not everyone is eligible. That was a surprise. I guess I’d always assumed anyone could donate, so the idea that it might not even be an option for me got me thinking. 

At first, my motivation was probably a bit selfish. But as I learned more about the process, my perspective changed. I started to think about couples and families who were ready for kids in every way except biologically. They’ve got everything else lined up—love, stability, a good home—but can’t take that final step. It felt like such a heavy thing, imagining empty nurseries and dreams put on hold.  

“I realised that if I could do something to help, why wouldn’t I?” 

That’s when I found Care Fertility. I picked them initially because they were local, had good reviews, and a professional website. But from the first call, I knew I’d made the right choice. The team, especially Dionne, was brilliant—kind, approachable, and happy to answer all my questions, even the daft ones. 

What the process looked like 

Before I started, I did a bit of reading online about sperm donation and other people’s experiences. I wasn’t sure what to expect, and honestly, I thought it might feel a bit clinical or even dehumanising. Let’s be real— sperm donation isn’t a topic most people talk about openly, so it’s easy to feel like it might be awkward. 

When I reached out to Care Fertility all those concerns disappeared. Dionne was incredibly friendly and took the time to answer every question I had. She made it clear from the start that I’d have support at every step. That reassurance really helped me commit to the process. 

The emotional side of donating 

For me, the idea of helping someone else start or grow their family was the thing that spurred me on. While I can’t fully imagine what it’s like to want kids so badly but be unable to have them, I do understand the frustration of feeling like a family isn’t in the cards for you. 

The moment it hit me was after the final blood tests. That’s when Care told me my samples could now be used. Suddenly, this wasn’t just an abstract idea—it was real. There was a genuine chance that my donation could make a difference for someone. 

One thing I’ve thought about a lot is what it means to be a donor. Biologically, yes, any resulting kids are connected to me, but they’re not my children. They’ll have parents who’ve worked so hard to have them, and I’m not part of that family. For me, that’s not a bleak thought—it’s a good thing. If someone’s gone through all the effort of fertility treatment, you know they’re going to be fantastic parents. 

Advice for other potential donors 

If you’re considering becoming a sperm donor, my advice is to really think about your mindset going in. It’s important to understand that your role is to help others create their family, not to create your own. If you can get your head around that, it can be such a rewarding thing to do. 

Also, don’t be afraid to ask questions. Care Fertility was fantastic about answering mine, no matter how basic or complicated they were. This is a big step, and it’s normal to have concerns or uncertainties. The team is there to help you through it all. 

What I’ll take away from this experience 

Looking back, the most rewarding part of this journey has been knowing I’ve helped others. I think families who go through the hurdles of fertility treatment are incredibly strong and committed. They’ll never take their kids for granted, and it’s humbling to know I’ve played a small part in that. 

For anyone out there thinking about becoming a donor, I’d say give it some thought and reach out to a clinic like Care Fertility. They’ll treat you with kindness and professionalism, and you’ll be part of something truly meaningful. 

Michael’s experience shows how simple it can be to help others build their family. If you’ve ever considered becoming a sperm donor, now is the time to find out more. Visit our dedicated sperm donation page to see how you can get involved.